It has often been said that giving praise or compliments is indeed, a way to "Win Friend and Influence People" and yet, since everyone already knows this many can see through the veil of false praise. Fake kudos is so common that many now will not even take a compliment.
It's just not worth analyzing to figure out if it was genuine. Worse, everyone is running around complimenting everyone for nothingness, that it does not mean anything anyway.
Additionally, it really matters where the approval is coming from. For instance, let's say all the dogs in the neighborhood approved of you, would this make you very happy? For some it does. How about a troop of chimpanzees? How about a group of humans with an 80 pt. IQ level? How about a schmoozer in the office or a salesman at the car lot?
Okay, let's say a cyclist who rode in his first race and placed 54th went up to Lance Armstrong and said "Good race" and Lance Armstrong says thank you, but in his head he's thinking, who are you to judge me? You didn't even try in your race, you didn't practice, and you don't take it seriously.
Now, it is common courtesy to receive the compliment, but it's not about Lance Armstrong feeling approval, it's about the approver being able to compare themselves with the excellence, which they are too lazy or pre-committed in other endeavors in life to achieve. See that point.
Sometimes compliments turn people off, sometimes they are not necessary, and believe it or not there is a huge generational gap on the issues of the need for approval and the use of compliments in society whether it is online or in real life. Think on this.
Lance Winslow - Lance Winslow's Bio. Learn about Lance Winslow's aircraft business; http://www.aircraftwashguys.com/about.shtml.
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